What a turnoff!

What a turnoff!

In the spirit of romantic love, most of us make great strides in presenting ourselves in a manner that is attractive and beguiling. Whether it is for the wife, the hubby or a potential love interest, we choose certain clothing and endure tortuous beauty and body procedures to guarantee ourselves a good showing. But what if those things you thought were attractive to the opposite sex were, in fact, repelling?

Turns out both genders get it wrong in the game of love, often. Intriguingly, many of the reported turnoffs make the same bad impressions across gender lines (note the italicized items below). Even so, men and women still misconstrue what the other might find attractive. These kinds of miscalculations can screw-up an otherwise nice connection, so it is best to get familiar with the most offensive opposite-sex turnoffs and discontinue them forthwith.

Women on men – Most women want a man who is well-groomed and fashionably with-it. However, never overly so in either department as a seemly vain man always appears to be more into himself than his date.

To remain attractive to the general female population, avoid:

• Cheesy hairstyles include faux hawk, mohawk, the Bieber and the Caesar

• Faux hair includes hair plugs and comb-overs

• Untouchable hair includes excessively gelled, pomaded or hairsprayed

• Highlighted and colored hair

• High-buffed or polished nails

• Plucked eyebrows

• Profuse perfume or deodorant usage, or the wearing of common scents like Ralph Lauren Polo or Dakkar Noir

• Abundant tattoos

• Overly tanned skin (especially in the winter)

• Tight or stretchy and sleeveless T-shirts

• Copious jewelry 

Men on women – Ask most men and they will say they want to be with a natural and low-maintenance kind of woman, yet women think that we need to pluck, preen and pick ourselves perfect in order to find and keep a mate. In the process of creating a more “perfect” vision of ourselves, we end up looking less real.

To remain attractive to the general male population, avoid:

• Botox face

• Excessive makeup includes heavy foundation, blush, lip liner, lip gloss, and red lipstick.

• Faux hair includes extensions, hairpieces and eyelashes

• Untouchable hair includes overly teased and excessively hair sprayed

• Acrylic nails and nails designs

• Tattooed eyebrows

• Profuse perfume usage

• Abundant tattoos

• Overly tanned skinned (especially in the winter)

• Undergarment enhancements including Spanx and the Wonderbra

• Sky-high heels

• Copious jewelry

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With all this said about turnoffs, I am reminded of something my mother used to say to me when she thought I was being judgmental: “Different strokes for different folks.” Thus, I must concede that there are people, like Kanye West and Nicole Kidman, who prefer an overly manicured mate and the above turnoffs could actually pose as turn-ons. For the rest of us, use the lists above as a guideline for making your next date (at least from your end) turnoff-free.

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Looking nifty under $50: week 7

Looking nifty under $50: week 7

Each week get a nifty head-to-toe maternity look for under $50. FD&D finds you cheap chic and sale items to help you pull off a pregtastic look, inexpensively.

FD&D Style Notes:

  • Flesh tone top mustn’t match your skin tone or you could appear naked from afar.
  • Dark navy pants slims lower body.
  • Sleeveless top highlights toned arms.
  • Stirring at mid-chest gives bust definition.
  • Scarf “ties” coordinates together and adds panache.
  • Keep metal tones in one family. Yellow gold buttons on pants work with rose gold of earrings.


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Looking nifty under $50: week 6

Looking nifty under $50: week 6

Each week get a nifty head-to-toe maternity look for under $50. FD&D finds you cheap chic and sale items to help you pull off a pregtastic look, inexpensively.

 

 

 

FD&D Style Notes:

  1. Coordinate accessories with embellishment of maxi’s beaded bib neckline.
  2. Black maxi elongates and slims.
  3. Maxi great piece for pre-during-post pregnancy.
  4. Strapless maxi great choice for pre-baby shape numbers 1 and 6.
  5. Clogs styling on par with maxi’s Cultural style category.
  6. Bracelets provide arm candy and a distraction to a heavier upper arm.

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Looking nifty under $50: week 5

Looking nifty under $50: week 5

Each week get a nifty head-to-toe maternity look for under $50. FD&D finds you cheap chic and sale items to help you pull off a pregtastic look, inexpensively.

 

 

 

FD&D Style Notes:

  1. Drop waist of dress hugs the bump.
  2. Fuller skirt make legs look thinner.
  3. Use handle on satchel to carry the handbag rather than its strap as cross body bags accentuate belly girth.
  4. Leggings look best on pregos when worn along with a dress or tunic rather than simply as pants.
  5. Stylish, comfortable shoes are a must-due for pregnancy.

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Got a passion for purple?

Got a passion for purple?

There hasn’t been this much passion for purple since Donny Osmond’s borderline obsession with purple socks in the 1970’s. Purple is back in a big way and in 2014 it won’t settle for just making a statement with socks. Nope, purple aspires to be your everything hue, coloring your face and nails, your wardrobe, and your home.

Purple is a unique color. On the color wheel it sits between the chilly tranquility of blue and the blazing vitality of red. It exhibits both cool and warm attributes. This means purple has the ability to compliment the full range of skin tones and home décor color pallets. However not every shade of purple is for everyone or everyplace.

Finding the right purple for your face, nails, and wardrobe – Before you apply or slip-on purple it is important to get a read on your skin’s undertone. Knowing whether your undertone is cool or warm makes all the difference in finding the most flattering colors. According to Simply Karen Mineral Cosmetics, undertones can be found by looking at the underside of your wrist; “If your veins appear bluish you are cool toned, if they appear greenish you are warm toned.” Those shades of purple that match your “temperature” will be the most complimentary. Therefore cool undertones look best in purples that contain more blue properties like mauve, periwinkle, and royal (see: Pantone). While warm undertones look best in purples that are mixed with more red properties like magenta, radiant orchid, and burgundy (see: Pantone)

 Finding the right purple for your home – Just like the concept of matching temperature tones for a harmonious look, the same reasoning applies to a harmonious home. As a general rule mixing warm and cool palettes in the same room creates an unconventional vibe and knocks the room out of balance. To avoid this always consider the temperature tone of the room’s existing upholstered furniture or accents before adding new purple elements. This is prudent whether you are painting the room purple or just added inexpensive yet impactful updates such as purple pillows, throws, vases, and even candles.

The next time you are tempted to buy a purple something or other consider if your temperatures are a good match even when it’s simply a pair of purple socks.

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